Lethal Authenticity

A week of watching the television news would indicate that telling the truth is out of fashion.

The BIG lies are those told by corporations and people in power, motivated by their addiction to “success”.

Organisations and brands that we trusted.

Individuals who, earlier on, earned our admiration.

The small lies are those we tell ourselves and others every day.

“Are you OK?”

“Yes – I’m fine.”

“Is the food to your liking?”

“Yes – thanks, it’s lovely.”

“Am I doing the right thing here?”

“Yes – keep on just like that.”

We do it because the pain of telling the truth seems greater than the pain of the small lie.

Society educates us to avoid making a fuss.

It’s a short-term fix.

It’s the good conversation whose absence festers into the BIG problem.

What you could have said was:

“No – I’m not OK – and here is why.”

“No – the food isn’t what I expected”

“No – you aren’t doing it right – and here is what right looks like.”

Those on the receiving end of this feedback may well react in ways that are indifferent, uncomfortable or downright hostile.

They identify themselves in this way as the wrong people to have in your life.

Lethal authenticity can be delivered without insensitivity, blame or aggression.

It will never win you an election, get you promoted or make you everybody’s party invite.

It will deliver clarity and integrity, one day at a time.

Eventually it will earn respect.

The respect that those on our TV screens have squandered.


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Chris Barrow

Chris Barrow has been active as a consultant, trainer and coach to the UK dental profession for over 20 years. As a writer, his blog enjoys a strong following and he is a regular contributor to the dental press. Naturally direct, assertive and determined, he has the ability to reach conclusions quickly, as well as the sharp reflexes and lightness of touch to innovate, change tack and push boundaries. In 2014 he appeared as a “castaway” in the first season of the popular reality TV show “The Island with Bear Grylls”. His main professional focus is as Coach Barrow, providing coaching and mentorship to independent dentistry.