The absurdity of reality

A client asked me “how come you know so many jokes and can use so much humour in your workshops and your coaching?”
I explained that I don’t tell jokes – in fact I am truly hopeless at telling jokes.
But I do use lots of humour – that’s correct.
And I’ve learned to observe how “stand-up” comics function.
The funniest stories they tell are those based on the absurdity of our reality.
How absurd it can be to sit in a 20-mile line of traffic, to receive appalling customer service, to deal with an angry and unreasonable client, to drag a drunken teenager to hospital.
They are all serious situations that we can laugh about afterwards – and that’s where the humour becomes the method by which we connect with our audience.
Because they see themselves in our story – and then realise that “this guy is just like me” – and then they connect with you.
My client was about to address a large gathering of financial services professionals and wanted to know how best to connect quickly.
I advised him to “connect with their quiet desperations.” And to use humour to connect.


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Chris Barrow

Chris Barrow has been active as a consultant, trainer and coach to the UK dental profession for over 20 years. As a writer, his blog enjoys a strong following and he is a regular contributor to the dental press. Naturally direct, assertive and determined, he has the ability to reach conclusions quickly, as well as the sharp reflexes and lightness of touch to innovate, change tack and push boundaries. In 2014 he appeared as a “castaway” in the first season of the popular reality TV show “The Island with Bear Grylls”. His main professional focus is as Coach Barrow, providing coaching and mentorship to independent dentistry.